more mentality

Lately, I’ve had this overwhelming feeling of wondering what’s next. Some may think that’s a silly thing to ask once you already have you’re so called “dream job,” but I have a sneaky suspicion that other freelancers ask themselves that very same question all the time. The thing is, entrepreneurs often crave more. They reach a certain goal, cross it off their check list, and immediately set the next one. While there is nothing wrong with this, we need to remember to relax a just little bit. Now, I’m definitely guilty of the more mentality – like this commercial. At 24 years old, I’m already wondering ( and maybe worrying ) where I’ll be at 35. Or 40.

While I’ve realized that having high dreams and the passion to reach them are both great things, I’ve also come to learn that the path in which you get there is also important. So instead of worrying about fiften years from now – or even just two, enjoy the now and be present. Be aware of the steps you need to take in order to move forward, but don’t forget to look around, too. You may notice + develop a new creative path that you never thought you’d explore in your lifetime. Who knows! That’s what’s so great about being your own boss. YOU have the power to define your days.

  1. Shayla says:

    Hi Breanna, I think it’s only natural that you are wondering about the future, I think it’s hard not to when living the freelance life because it more than other work has so many unknown variables. But I think you have the right attitude in that you are trying to just enjoy the now. I am in my 30’s now and what I can tell you is that your life will unfold and twist and turn in many ways that you could never imagine now even if you tried. I’ll also tell you that 15 or 20 years from now you will likely be asking the same questions and being 34 isn’t going to feel much different than 24 except that you’ll have a little more experience under your belt. I think that’s the strangest thing I’ve discovered about ageing… it doesn’t at all feel the way I thought it would, instead of feeling older I still essentially feel the way I did when I was 15, 25, 30… the me of me is and I guess always remain the same. :)

    Keep Dreaming and most importantly Keep LIVING!

  2. Kory says:

    I love those new AT&T commercials! They’re so adorable.

    I do agree with you. I think creatives have a way of not only wanting more, but like you said, being worried about the future. I mean, how many times in art school are we faced with the realization that we probably wouldn’t have a secure job opportunity when we graduate? Hopefully many can learn, as you have, that by focusing on the now and the work you’re doing now, you’ll be much better off than worrying!

    • breanna says:

      Yes! I remember feeling absolutely terrified in design school about stepping out into the real world. It definitely helped, at least for me, to just take it a day at a time. The bigger picture is often unknown and scary and complex. For sure.

  3. Kelisha says:

    Hi Breanna :)
    First of all I’d like to thank you for being the final push I needed to start blogging. I stumbled upon your blog and instantly fell in love with everything from it’s simplicity to the wonderful colour palette! You’re quite awesome, in case you didn’t know.

    Anyways, I’d like to say that thinking about the future is scary, but very exciting at the same time. It means you have goals to accomplish, places to go, and people you want to be with. It means you’re actively living, not simply surviving day to day. I believe it’s a great mentality to have, as long as you don’t overthink it. Stay present as you move forward.

    I’m only 20 and I tend to do the same thing. Make goals after I’ve just accomplished one. Every now and then though, I remember that I don’t have to decide who I’ll be in 15, 20 years right now. I can be whoever I want at whatever age when the time comes. :)

    • breanna says:

      Glad to hear you started blogging! Awesome.

      I agree that having passion and momentum for the future is a GREAT thing! Just can’t miss the now, too. :) Agree agree + take care!

  4. athena says:

    This post. Dear LORD this post. It’s exactly perfect. “the path in which you get there is also important.” I’ve come to learn that the path with which you get there might be most important. It’s the path that changes you. The shapes and inspires you. It’s the work that makes it worth it. And its in the mess that we can find beauty.

    And you’re completely right- us creatives are always setting our sights *ahead.* There’s always something else we’re after once we’ve achieved that last item on our current list. And I agree with you wholeheartedly – that while that’s a good thing, we also must remember to be present where we are right now. To enjoy what we’ve done. How far we’ve come. And to find joy where we are.

    you’re amazing. xxo

    • breanna says:

      Luh You.

      But yes, us creatives can get so so so caught up in what’s next. All the time. And I don’t want to feel so overworked 15 years from now. I want to look back and see a journey that was nurturing and worth it. :)

      xx.

  5. alicia says:

    I was actually just thinking about that on the bus this morning, what’s next?! I think freelancers often forget to admire everything they HAVE already accomplished, I know I do. Instead I focus on what I still want to/need to do. Time to slow down and smell the flowers. Like you said, getting there is half the experience!

  6. Noor says:

    I have been married for almost 8 years now so I am blessed that my husband has a good job and we own our own bagel shop so were financially secure. For me I just work to have something to do so I never really have to think about whats next. The money I earn has always been my money to spend anyway that I would like and my husband takes care of the bills and all of that.

  7. Alexa says:

    I love this post! I haven’t even graduated college yet and my mind is constantly consumed by what I will be doing once I graduate. Will I be an entrepreneur? Will I get my dream job? I have no idea what I want or what I will be doing which stresses me out big time! Do you have any posts on how you decided to become an entrepreneur? I would love to read about it!

    XOXO,
    Alexa

  8. Marisa says:

    so. good. i can definitely relate! thanks!

  9. Jade Sheldon says:

    In life, we can only plan so much. My dreams have grown and changed as the years have gone by. Some dreams have died uncovering dreams I didn’t even realize were possible. I’m a perfectionist who likes to be in control and over the years it has worn me out to the point of exhaustion. It isn’t healthy and I’m learning to do better. In cutting back it has made my art so much more fulfilling.

    • breanna says:

      Jade,
      I very much relate to your comment. I already have started feeling signs of exhaustion, which I realize isn’t a good things. I’ve been making sure to slow down and enjoy the ride. You’re right, I think that’s what makes our work much much more fulfilling. :)
      xx.

  10. heather says:

    One of my favorite quotes has always been, “What is the difference between exploring and being lost?” I’ve found that it’s (a little too) easy to look around at all the people you know and worry that maybe you’re falling behind. Whenever I start to wonder about (/panic about) what “the future” has in store, it’s always nice to remember that the journey really is the destination.

    Usually, letting go and just letting things happen naturally instead of trying to manage and plan my every move is the not-so-secret secret to living a happier life.

    Plus, I think it’s safe to say that you are one of those successful ladies that makes other people wonder if *they* are falling behind. ;)

  11. Aaron says:

    I can totally relate! I never realized what a workaholic I could be, until I finished grad school and decided to start my own business instead of getting a 9-5. It takes a lot of hard work and compromise to make your dreams come true, and it definitely isn’t as easy or as leisurely as people think it is! I have to work part-time doing something that isn’t my dream job in order to pay the bills that allow me to continue to pursue my own business, and I rarely go a day without thinking “when is this going to happen?” or “what’s next….will it be like this forever?” I’m with you – sometimes you just have to sit yourself down, take a breath, recognize how far you’ve come, and be content knowing that what’s meant to happen will happen!

  12. Caytlyn says:

    This is a great post, I too think of this often. I tend to think about things that are going to happen years from now…and need to be reminded to just live in the moment. Thanks!

Sorry, the comment form is closed at this time.