There’s something to be said about the seemingly “perfect” world blogging can create in the eye of a reader. The combination of careful curation and positive posts can make anyone’s life seem almost too good to be true. Now, I’m not saying that this is a bad thing or that we all need to get a little more negative – not at all. I simply believe that it’s important to realize that there is no such thing as 100% perfection. While your readers may love beautifully put together outfits or tasty meal highlights, most would also like to know that you’re human. And relatable. And that maybe you wear sweats and eat mac n’ cheese sometimes ( me! ).

Personally, like most, I choose to share mostly positive things here, simply because I want my blog to be an inspiring + uplifting place. I do, however, like to be truthful. Whether I’m asking for advice about stress or sharing hard truths about being a freelancer, it’s important for me to show you my life in an honest way. As a result, people have felt more comfortable to email me for advice or thank me for being candid, which is exactly what I’m going for around these parts.

Again, blogging is generally a positive thing and I don’t see anything wrong with that. Bloggers, I encourage you to be real. Post what you love, authentically. Readers, I encourage you to read along for enjoyment over comparison. There is no way all of us are put together effortlessly in J.Crew inspired outfits eating at top notch restaurants everyday. It’s just not real life. IFB wrote an interesting post on this subject with anonymous quotes from bloggers on what they’re NOT sharing. Definitely a good read!

  1. Noor says:

    This is a really great post and I think that is why I love you and your blog so much. You act normal and do not try to act like your this or that. Ugh, you know the blogs that post $500 sweaters and what not I mean get real lol.

  2. Sandi says:

    True words…thanks :)

  3. KAIT says:

    Thanks for the post – I find your blog very inspiring and a lot of that is because you keep it real in an effortless sort of way. Not many other bloggers are too good at that balance, bravo!

  4. thais says:

    Amazing article! It´s really something to think about. xx

  5. Chloe Moon says:

    More people need to read this post! Exactly!! I wrote a very whimsy magical post the other day that yes it showed my love for french macarons it seemed eerily too positive. Well I took off the rose colored glasses and actually posted my mishaps with making those darn lil things. I try to do that, have a blend of the good and the bad. If your blog is all about beautiful things go for it! But it is nice to hear that people have bad days, recipes don’t work, or trepidation over something! It does make it more real! =)

  6. I definitely agree with you, there is a facade over every blog that just is not reality. Sometimes it isn’t purposeful but other times it is to make sure people see your life as perfect. This post was very inspiring one as a blogger and two as a reader who sees other blogs to be so “perfect.” There is something that is so admirable about being vulnerable in situations and saying “Hey, I’m a real person who has bad days just like everyone else”

    Thanks for sharing:)
    -Courtney

  7. Abbie says:

    Cheers to that, br!

  8. I adore this post because sometimes it’s hard to forget that the lives of other bloggers are not perfect. I love the inspiration shared by bloggers daily but I also love reading about real-world experiences. I enjoy that my favorite bloggers include a fine mixture of those.

  9. Aubri says:

    I love this post! I love your blog and I’m about to start one of my own. I dream about all the inspiring designs and pretties I can post about but I want to be real too. The best part is those are the times people stop and fall in love with your blog in a whole new way ( like right now )! Thanks!

  10. Monica says:

    Amen, sister! I want to be more ‘real’ on my blog too but sometimes I just don’t know how. I think we just over thing these things too much and we just need to be ourselves.
    I enjoyed that article from IFB, too.

  11. Anna-Rosa says:

    Sooo true! I have to admit I compare my real life with all the glitter I see on the other blogs and that’s not fair at all to me! I’m so happy you wrote that post! I really admire your work and blog (recently found through taza) and now I admire you more!! Thanks for sharing :)
    xo

  12. natasha says:

    thanks Bre, excellent point.

    as a hobby blogger i’m all too intimidated by other blogger’s seemingly perfect posts/lives. i often try to keep it real in my posts but i always feel embarrassed afterwards, am scared of being judged, or worst – judge myself – and end up deleting them. so my wee blog has more or less just turned into a photo blog/inspiration board sans words!

    what i’m trying to say is that what you, and bloggers like you, do – being able to speak so freely through your blog, and speak so well – is actually really brave and really special. speaking through a blog it turns out isn’t that much different to speaking in front of a crowd in real life, it takes guts and perhaps a lot of practice and draft copies!

    keep it up Bre! x

  13. Joanne says:

    I find it challenging to be real/honest on my blog because I’m afraid of being judged. There is a tiny part of me that doesn’t care about what people think but I guess there’s a bigger part of me that does care. It something I’m working on changing. slowly. but surely.
    Thanks for the encouragement to keep it real! :)

  14. Very true, and I’m glad to hear someone say it. One of my favorite quotes (that I often have to remind myself to practice) is, “don’t compare your behind-the-scenes to other people’s highlight reel.”

  15. Saskia says:

    Exactly why I felt immediately at ease and emailed you when I received your newsletter. Thank you, Bre! Your words (and images, clearly) are appreciated.

  16. Sian says:

    I’ve been thinking the exact same thing lately.
    For a while there I got pretty over the whole ‘blogging’ world, just because there is a lot of materialism and this ‘seemingly perfect’ image going on… I get that people want to keep it cheery, and each to their own on what they feel comfortable sharing, but I defo think we need to ditch the idea we all need to be seen as perfect, cause perfection’s a myth if you ask moi.

    I think people have a lot of respect for those who are willing to share ‘the whole story’ too.

    Props to you for keeping it real girl!

  17. Mac n’ cheese is a regular staple diet in my house and yes, most of the time it is devoured in PJs! Its posts like this that keep other bloggers going. Thank you Breanna!

  18. This post made my heart smile and tears well up. I think I may just be having a really tough week but goodness I needed to be reminded of this. The post by IFB was really insightful. I am afraid to post to my blog right now because I am afraid it will sound incredible self defeating. I just launched my business and although I am not new to design, I am new to blogging. I really appreciate you sharing this. Thank you! :)

  19. Laura M. says:

    I love how real this post is & the article quotes were interesting to read! Sometimes it can be a little overwhelming to fellow bloggers post their “perfect” life all the time. I do think we should get out more this year and spend time in good company & see the world with our own eyes rather than focus on the way readers see us & our blogs! ;) thanks for sharing your honesty and having such an inspiring, positive, & honest place to visit on the web!

  20. Patti says:

    YES! Mac & Cheese, Grilled Cheese, Pajamas all day, not washing hair! Let’s get real : ) love this post. BTW I reco Trader Joe’s frozen mac & cheese.

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