Life Lessons | This Is Where You Area

When it comes to making New Year’s resolutions, I don’t typically jump on the bandwagon. My mind is often thinking about what’s next and setting goals, so the beginning of the year really doesn’t feel too different. While I’m not going to list a bunch of things that I’d like to work on, there is a phrase I want to share that has been playing over and over in my head as of late : This is where you are.

And you know where I first heard that phrase?? During the Insanity workout with good old Sean T. There is a session called “pure cardio” where you perform move after move, for a REALLY long time. Without breaks. And that’s exactly where this little phrase pops up. I remember the first time hearing it, sweating + suffering and tired as can be. But those words kept me going. And although I first heard them while working out, that’s not what I’m here to talk about. Nope. This is about being present in the here and now.

For as long as I can remember, I’ve been driven by the future. I know that won’t entirely change as it’s an engrained trait, but I’m very motivated to focus on what’s going on NOW, more. It can be as simple as savoring dinner on date nights instead of worrying about what we’re going to do afterwards. Or enjoying the fact that we now have our own house rather than thinking about what piece of furniture we “need” to buy next. Because here’s the thing : the future is not guaranteed. We all know that deep down, but can easily get caught up in the “what’s next” category. So two thousand fourteen … THAT is what I am focusing on this year. I’m here, it’s January 8th, cheers!

  1. KAIT says:

    awesome post – couldn’t agree more!

  2. Margo says:

    Listening to your mixtape now.. love it!

  3. Quyen says:

    Well said! Amen to that!

  4. Kelly Brito says:

    Agree with Margo, GREAT mixtape -listed to it yesterday.

    As for new year resolutions, I first worked on one big resolution on 2013 and got it done. For 2014, my plan/resolution is to travel -a lot (10 years, no traveling/vacation here). But for all other really important things, like yourself, my mind is always on the game and planning what’s next.

    • breanna says:

      Yes!! Agreed – more travel this year. :) And 10 years?? You need to take a little vacation. Do it!

  5. Danielle says:

    Taping a “this is where you are” reminder on my bathroom mirror. Thank you for sharing!

  6. jensen says:

    my yoga teacher is always talking about the importance of meeting your body where it is and solely focusing on its abilities in that moment, rather than thinking of what it could last week, or even yesterday or what you wish it could be doing (because the truth is, neither the past or the future exists at this moment). and i’ve found that it rings so true to life, just focusing on the present moment and meeting yourself where you are and really feeling and experiencing it. it’s not always easy, but it’s definitely a good goal to have! can’t wait to see where it takes you this year!

  7. Angel Y. says:

    Great post Breanna! Really enjoying working with now instead of the future, especially when the future isn’t always promised to us.

  8. Molly says:

    Such a good reminder. I recently graduated, moved to San Francisco and started a new design job. I’m used to quick semesters and internships, so it’s definitely a big adjustment for me to think of my life in terms of years, instead of “what’s next?!” But… I actually have everything I’ve been working for the last few years, so I am trying to savor it.

  9. Jackie Smith says:

    Totally agree! Love the way you put how I feel into words. You’re off to a great start this year!

  10. Berke says:

    After reading your post, I felt sad about myself because if I discover this awesome blog of yours earlier, I thought like somethings in my works&life might be different in a better way.Then I said to myself hey this is where i am! i should enjoy this moment instead of being sad for the past or thinking too much about future! ^_^

    Great great post :)

  11. Erin says:

    This is perfect! And exactly what I needed to read today.

  12. Kelli Marie says:

    Wow— this is what I needed to hear. Thank you for sharing this moving moment of clarity. I am dazzled!

  13. Sarah Rose says:

    Thank you for this perspective. I had a similar realization one day. I had the thought: “I am going to look back on today, and miss it.” Rather than being distracted with what lies ahead, it is so valuable to live the moment. Just exist, and be happy right now! :)

  14. Kate says:

    I could not agree more, such good inspiration for 2014!

    Kate xo |

  15. Jessica says:

    This is very well written! Focusing on the now is such a good goal.

  16. Britney says:

    This is the sort of thinking I’ve adopted this year. In previous years I’ve been caught up in a sort of dream world longing for the future but when the clock struck 12am on the first day of 2014 I was determined to focus on being present. There are so many brilliant moments that you can often miss because your caught up in your head. Crazy when you think about it!

  17. giulia says:

    i love this, bre! and i love how it came from a workout. my coaches say things like that to me all the time when i am dying in the pool – and they stick! they transfer to other parts of life!

  18. Rana says:

    Totally agree. being present is the key to enjoy your life!

  19. Amielle says:

    Oh I really like this! Definitely going to have to write this down and tape it somewhere I can see every day! Wonderful post.

  20. Tori says:

    This is a really lovely post dear Breanna – I, too, am going to try and take each moment as it comes, and do my best not to live too much in the future, or worry about what might happen next – it’s the things we do now that will influence that so, I guess, it’s best for me to just focus on what I can do now and learn to be happy with that!

    Thank you for sharing this :)

    • breanna says:

      True that! The things we do NOW shape the future in so many ways. I remember a few months back wondering if I would still be able to “be my own boss” and design when I’m 40. Because that’s a long time from now. And then I had to tell myself to STOP, because you never know what will happen between then and now. :)

  21. Joy says:

    Bre, I found you through Pinterest, I think. I had pinned one of your posts a long time ago and then never came back to read it and then, two days ago, down the rabbit hole I fell. I’ve really been enjoying your archives and I just want to say *thank you* for your ‘for bloggers’ section. I’ve learned so much!

    I love how you put this. So true.

  22. Stacia says:

    I completely hear you on this one. I challenge myself to “fall in love where I am.” It doesn’t mean I forget about the future, but that I try to love the heck out of the present, too, instead of spending all of my time wishing that “this” or “that” future event was already here. It helps keep me in balance and I cope better with stress when I take the time to appreciate the present for a little bit.

    • breanna says:

      OH MAN. I love your take on all of this!! The whole thing about falling in love with where you are, but not necessarily forgetting about the future. I don’t think I could ever NOT think about the future, which is why I loved your sentiment so much. :) It’s a balancing act! xx.

  23. Maru says:

    A very true and wonderful post! Sometimes we are so focused on making goals that we forget to live the present. Let’s enjoy the little moments of happiness! Cheers to that Breanna!

  24. Lucy says:

    I SO needed to read this! As much as I love resolutions (our whole blog is built around them!) I really need to practice being content and what is happening now and not getting frustrated or disheartened when seeing other people’s journeys who are in different places to me. Thanks for the reminder to hold on to an attitude of gratitude, Breanna! Lucy xoxo

  25. Ah, yes this resonated with me so much. I actually just posted about “Bloom where you’re planted” – it really is about taking full advantage of the present, enjoying the moment and discovering the beauty around us now. I love what you said about enjoying the fact you own your own home, instead of thinking about future decor. Goodness, I needed this. Thanks, B!

  26. Brittanny says:

    That is a pretty great philosophy. I definitely have gotten caught up in the gotta get my goals straight for the new year. I have to remember to enjoy the now as well.

  27. PEARLSPEAK says:

    as I’m redesigning my brand and thinking about the million things to-do that are ahead, reading this brought me a lot of peace this afternoon. thank you for sharing your thoughts, Bri xo.

  28. I’m in LOVE with your blog! It’s so simple and so well put together and I adore the content. New fan.

    I agree. It’s important to just BE PRESENT. I’m constantly reminding myself this.

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  30. This sentiment really hits home with me. I am not exactly where I want to be in life at present, but as you say, this is where I am. I do look to the future because I am looking forward to the next phase, but I think it’s equally important to appreciate where you are coming from – both past and present moment. Thank you for a wondering reminder!

  31. Sophie says:

    Love this post! I completely agree! When you have so many things going on at the same time, you make it difficult for yourself to pause and really enjoy the present moment. As you said, the future is a big unknown and if we don’t savor the present moment, it will come and go without us even noticing it :)
    Keep up the great work :)!

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