I’m jumping on the bandwagon a little late in the game for this whole “things I’m afriad to tell you,” but I’ve loved reading the stories of other bloggers and thought I’d join in. There is a gigantic list over on Creature Comforts of others doing the same! Although it’s always scary to do things like this, it sure does feel good. Here it goes:

01. I’m a shy and modest midwestern girl on the outside, through and through. Although nobody would realize it, I get nervous in new social situations. I can carry on a conversation and interact just fine, but I’m much more comfortable with the people close to me. Once that outer layer sheds, out comes the weird + quirky girl who likes speaking in accents and car dancing to dub-step.

02. I can count the friends I trust on one hand.

03. To expand on the whole friend thing, I’m also pretty lax on keeping in touch. Because I work a lot and don’t live near all my friends, it’s difficult for me to keep in touch on a regular basis. I never purposefully stay silent … I just forget to check in from time to time. Although that sounds bad, my good friends and I pick up right where we left off each and every time. That’s the beauty of it. I know they’re always there.

04 I’m okay with that fact that I’m a workaholic. I have big dreams and know that I need to work hard to get there. Although this means some late nights and major concentration on my part, I know it will be worth it in the end and things will even out.

05. I have a heavy heart. I’m known as the “sensitive” one in my family. I have a hard time telling whether someone is being sarcastic or not, tend to put others before myself, and overanalyze things. My profession requires many critiques, so it’s taken a lot of time and strength to learn how to become less sensitive in the many situations that arise. Although it’s hard, I’m getting there. Patience patience.

06. I’ve been taken advantage of in the past. Although I’m a friendly person online and in real life, I get anxious that things like this will happen again. Luckily, I’ve gotten a lot stronger with age and have learned when to say “no” and stick up for myself, but there will always be a little struggle inside.

07. Like Amanda mentioned in her own post, I’m afraid of telling people on the interwebs my age. I’m younger than almost all people in my position as a freelance designer. Because of this, I fear that I won’t be taken seriously or skipped over just because I’m young. I know I have a lot of room to learn and grow, but I am where I am because of hard work and dedication. I hope that people think about the quality and aesthetic of my work first and foremost.

  1. Alison says:

    I so identify with 5 & 6. I’m also a baby freelancer (not helped by the fact that I have such a young face that people routinely ask me what grade I’m in…) People act like doing this at a younger age is a drawback, but I think that it shows focus & determination, & that we’re just ahead of our time. :)

    • Don’t worry, Alison, I’m always mistaken for a high schooler. I’ve had 3 people ask me if I needed a permission slip to get married… can you say RUDE?!?! But, just remember, that you will look amazing in 20 years still :)

  2. YES to being young, having big dreams and the energy to chase after them! Would love to share your “big dreams” in an interview, Bre! Cheers!

    • bre says:

      Aww thank you! I’d love to answer some questions – shoot me an email : imbreannarose(at)gmail(dot)com xx.

  3. I found myself shaking my head yes to every single point you mentioned. I can wholeheartedly relate! Thank you for sharing, Breanna

  4. Leanda says:

    I really love this whole little ‘movement’ that’s got going on lately and I plan to reveal my ‘things I’m afraid to tell you’ when we have done our big move and settled in a bit. Let me tell you girl, you sound absolutely normal (well, you sound like me… whether that’s normal or not is debatable :). And I have always had huge hang ups about reavealing my age… once I thought I was too young, now I think I’m too old. But you know what, it’s only a number and you are the sum of your parts. We continue to grow and learn and that’s the beautiful thing about life. x

    • bre says:

      That’s the sweetest thing I’ve read regarding age — thank you!! It’s only a number, you’re right. ;)

  5. Kate says:

    I loved reading this! I love finding out that designers that I admire are young too- it’s so inspiring! Thanks for sharing, Bre!

  6. So glad you shared this! I thought this post was totally liberating once I hit publish. Like you did on mine, I can relate to you on about every point. I’m also very nervous about new social situations, but you would never know it! I’m going to be super nervous in Palm Springs this Sept, but am SO excited to meet everyone! P.S. I’m a sarcastic person, just to warn you before you meet me. I’m almost always joking. ;)

    • bre says:

      AHH!! I’m going to be SO nervous for Palm Springs, too. But at the same time, SO excited. Don’t worry, I can deal with sarcasm haha … it just takes me a bit. ;)

  7. Xixia says:

    This is a wonderful post! I’m really glad you’re taking part in this! I’ve been visiting your blog regularly in the past week to look (in awe) at your beautiful collections and pictures, and it’s nice to learn more about you. :)

    I completely relate to you on the “sensitive” point. It’s become more and more apparent to me that I overanalyze and tend to take everything to heart now that I’m in a relationship, where things can be misunderstood or taken a different (potentially worse) way than they are. Hopefully I will improve on this over time as well. :)
    ~xixia

  8. erika says:

    Bre, this could have been written by me! i always feel like the odd one out in new social situations since i prefer to take it all in and process things before saying anything. i also have a hard time deciphering whether someone is being sarcastic or serious and tend to harp on those things. the more “things i’m afraid to tell you” posts i read, the more i realize i’m not the only one who feels this way. it’s nice to know i’m not alone in it.

    thanks for sharing… i know how hard it can be to get this all out in the open. :)

  9. Alison says:

    I think that it’s important to have close friends, not just people to party with but deep real friendships, and it sounds like you have that down even if it’s hard to keep up with each other all the time.

  10. Kim Senn says:

    I can relate to the Midwestern modesty too! It’s taken years of living away from “home” and a ton of getting burned to build my confidence. Truly, your work speaks for itself, Bre. Talent doesn’t care about age and you have tons of it! Combined with the hard work you put in and you’re bound to be hugely successful. So inspired by you!

  11. athena says:

    heart this. heart you.

    xoxo

  12. Amanda says:

    Thanks for sharing your list! Number 01 pretty much describes me EXACTLY! Just discovered your blog and look forward to checking out your work! :)

  13. Freya says:

    I found this post very comforting because my list would look exactly the same, pretty much. It’s nice to know that my fears and worrying thoughts are not unique.

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  15. Charity S says:

    I am SO with you on the age thing. Last year when I was engaged, people would literally SQUINT and demand my age when they saw my ring. I actually got up the courage to tell one of them that it really wasn’t their business. If you’ve been through a lot early on… who is to judge your wisdom and talent by your age? Great post :)

  16. amy says:

    somehow i totally missed this post last week! i can relate to so many of these things. i have a handful of friends who i would say i can truly count on and open up to…and i like it that way. i tend to keep people at arm’s length, because like you. i am very sensitive. i’m also afraid of losing people i love too, because that has been a recurring theme in my life (although i am learning how to just enjoy the time i do get with them). i’m curious – how old are you? (if you don’t mind me asking) i feel the opposite way – like time is just ticking by/running out, and there is still SO much i want to do. i’m only 26, but i often feel old beyond my years, and i wish i was younger, with much more time. so definitely embrace the youth! i think it blows people away when someone who is younger has SOOOO much talent, like you!

    ps…thinking of you in regards to the news you found out this weekend and sending lots of hugs! xoxo

  17. Jo says:

    Oh, reading this is like reading something I would have written! I’m so shy, but like you, I can totally hold a conversation and make people think I’m totally normal socially! But I do find it a struggle.
    And regarding the age thing, let your talent speak for itself – who cares how old someone is if they have the ability to back it up, which you CLEARLY have in abundance! Even though I’m 31 I get mistaken for someone much younger all the time – I look younger than I am and people still sound incredibly shocked when they find out I’m married! I get asked for i.d. when I go to buy a bottle of wine (legal drinking age here is 18…), I never get taken seriously and am always asked if I need a student discount, etc etc…
    Anyway, sorry for such a long reply, but thanks so much for sharing, great post!

  18. sheryl says:

    Thank you so much for sharing this, you don’t know how much I appreciate reading it. Like you, I’m definitely a shy person …sometimes I can’t even hide it!!

    I want to dream big as a designer but sometimes I am my own worst enemy, especially in an industry that can be easily judged and criticized. But, I love what I do and I would never change it for anything else – it’s 11:29pm now and I’m still plugging away at my computer!

    I love your work and you are definitely someone that I admire. I can see your personality in your post and you have lovely warmth that comes through. Keep up the fantastic job – I always look forward to always checking your site and blog!

  19. katrina says:

    i admire you so very very very very very much.

  20. […] that! I don’t feel like that’s jucy enough, so I’ll leave you with my “Things I’m Afraid To Tell You” post, which I published a few weeks ago. I can’t begin to tell you how good it felt to […]

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