Whatever Will Be, Will Be | Photos for A Piece A Part

There’s this nagging question that’s been coming up over and over again in my head lately. What do I really want? For years, I’ve been following this meticulously carved path that I created myself. Start my own business, check. Make money, check. Buy a house, check. Do all of these other various “important” things, check. But is it what I really want? Maybe. Maybe not. I know this all sounds pretty vague and possibly dramatic (ha), but change is inevitable in this little thing called life. For all of us. I mean, don’t get me wrong … I absolutely LOVE my job and am grateful that I get to help other creatives tell their own unique stories. But sometimes, the very path that I carefully laid out myself, and the push for “success,” wears me out a little too much. And that’s the part that has me looking around + longing for some sort of shift.

So what do I really want? Gooood question. It’s funny how we can be SO sure of what we think we want, but so unsure of what we really want. As somebody who thrives on planning, this sort of uncertainty would usually freak me out. But this year, things are different. I’m learning how to embrace change, slow down, adapt, carry on, and find what feels good. So whenever I reach a crossroads, or feel stuck (in work OR life), I use that same question (what do I really want) as a compass and just go. It’s still hard for me not to constantly plan or wonder about the future, but truthfully, we don’t always need to understand the bigger picture anyway. Whatever will be, will be. So let’s see. :)

PS. I talk a little more about this topic in tomorrow’s Inside Insights newsletter over on Be Free, Lance. Every other week, Jen and I share stories from our own freelancing journeys in hopes that they will encourage you to continue on your own path in a way that works best for you. To get these, you can sign up right here! See ya there.

  1. Wow. I could have written this. In fact, about a year or so, I did. I realised that the big law career I had been working hard on for over a decade wasn’t fulfilling me at all, but rather scaring, boring and depressing me in turn. But what else? It was always ‘what I wanted’. Except I didn’t. Admitting that to myself was the biggest hurdle. Since then, I’ve taken baby steps towards extracting myself from law and recreating myself as a writer and freelance editor, and although I’m not fully there yet, I’m excited about the future for the first time in I don’t know how long. You totally have the right of it – if it feels good, it probably is good for you! At least, that’s how I’m working. Good luck with it! (Just signed up for BeFreeLance too – another small step for me!)

  2. Daria says:

    I perfectly know what you mean. I am currently studying Graphic Design and I do a lot of things in my life (running a blog, getting design jobs, travelling) and sometimes I stop and I ask myself “What do I want? Is this what I want?” and most of the time I can’t really say what will make me happy. But I guess no one knows, so I’ll just keep doing things that make me feel good :) x

    • breanna says:

      Exactly! Nobody knows what the future holds. It doesn’t make sense to spend SO much time thinking about it, when the present is here and now. :) Thanks for stopping by + wishing you the best!!

  3. Savanna says:

    I know this feel. I’ve been “absolutely, 100%” sure what I wanted to do with my life approximately twice – the first time it changed, and while I know right now my heart is in branding, it’s hard not to second guess yourself sometimes. I think it’s natural. Scary, but natural. When you’re a business owner and SO determined and ambitious about what you’re doing, I think that insane tunnel vision is what causes you to pause and be like…wait. I’m putting ALL this energy and effort and time into this. Is it REALLY what I want? So yes, I can totally relate. But I think we’ll all be fine in the end :)

    • breanna says:

      It’s 100% natural. Totally. And I liked your tidbit about tunnel vision, because I think it’s so accurate. We get SO into what we’re doing (because it’s OUR business), that sometimes it’s hard to break free or even consider something else, even when something else may be better for you (or your business). Asking ourselves “is this what i really want” and following our guts more and more certainly helps. :)

  4. I think I’m coming at this from the opposite angle, having not accomplished any of the big three just yet (business, money, house) I’m constantly asking myself what I want, trying and rejecting lots of options because I’m just never really perfectly certain. There has been so much shift, and not enough meticulous carving of paths for me. This post inspires me to keep asking what I really want, and keep putting myself out there and hustling!

    • breanna says:

      Interesting! I feel like I was in the same boat several years back, constantly trying new things that were inline with my goals. But no matter where we are – it’s important to do a gut check and make sure it’s what we actually want. <3 Thank you for stopping by!

  5. Marlena says:

    I TOTALLY feel you right now, Bre! There’s something different that’s missing from my life right now. I’ve thought about moving to a new city, moving to the other side of the city I live, etc. Heck, I’m currently living in another country for 3 months because I thought it would cure me! I think that’s also what has held me back a lot business-wise; this feeling of uncertainty and what do I want. When I was younger and in college I seemed to know exactly what I wanted. And yet now… totally lost. I have no clue. And I don’t know how to find it! If you discover the secret, please share it with me :)

  6. I totally know what you mean! That’s how I felt getting out of University and automatically opting for a office job (not what i really wanted). I think what we want always changes a little bit from what we thought we wanted. Have you ever read You are a Badass by Jen Sincero?? SO amazing! Thought it might help ya as much as it has helped me :)

  7. Maja says:

    I think it’s totally normal to go through these shifts in goals and dreams in one’s life. At least that is what I tell myself when I want to change what I am doing yet again :) Happy I am not alone in this :)

    xx

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  9. Kali /// says:

    I love this post. I also think it’s so wonderful that we all have the freedom to dive into that holy grail of a question “What do I really want?”. And hopefully come out the other side with an answer that could never have been in the future we thought we could perfectly plan. I hope you find the answer and, more importantly, aren’t afraid to go for it! :)

  10. I couldn’t have put it in words any better – this is exactly what has been on my mind. Except I have not ticked my way as far my to do list as you have.

  11. Kelly Brito says:

    I think this only means you’re always putting your love for what you do first, which is great, because we work better and create better things when we’re doing what we love. :)

  12. Mary says:

    I was in this same place a few years ago. I realized at some point me sticking to my planned path was actually more of an ego thing. Once I let go of what I thought was supposed to happened I found and discovered my happiness so much easier. If you are not enjoying the journey, change it.!

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